How to Help Older Siblings Feel Involved with the New Baby

Bringing home a new baby is a huge change for everyone, especially your older children.

Whether they’re toddlers or school-aged, it’s completely normal for siblings to feel uncertain or even jealous. But with a few simple strategies, you can help them feel included and important in their new role.

1.Involve Them in Baby Prep

Let them help pack the baby’s hospital bag or choose a soft toy for their sibling. Making them part of the process gives them a sense of ownership and excitement.

2.Give Them a “Big Sibling” Gift

A small gift “from the baby” can help smooth the transition and make them feel celebrated. It could be a book, toy, or special outfit.

3.Set Aside One-on-One Time

Even just 10–15 minutes a day with undivided attention can make a huge difference. Talk about their day, play their favourite game, remind them they’re still just as important.

4.Let Them Help (In Safe, Small Ways)

Ask them to fetch a nappy or help choose a baby outfit. These little tasks help them feel useful and connected.

5.Talk Openly About Feelings

Let them know it’s okay to feel happy and a little unsure. Books about becoming a big brother or sister can help open the conversation.

U L L U V   T I P: Some parents even pack a surprise “sibling gift” in their hospital bag to give at the first meeting. It’s a lovely way to ease introductions.