How to Talk to a Loved One Going Through Cancer: 6 Things They Actually Need to Hear

When someone you love is diagnosed with cancer, it can be hard to know what to say. You don’t want to upset them, say the wrong thing—or worse, say nothing at all. 

Here are 6 supportive things that people actually want to hear when going through treatment or recovery:

1.“I’m Here, No Matter What.”

Simple. Reassuring. Let them know you’re a consistent presence, even when words fail.

2. “I Don’t Know What to Say, But I’m Thinking of You.”

It’s okay to admit you don’t have the perfect words. Honesty and sincerity go a long way.

3.“Can I Help with Something Specific?”

Instead of vague offers, suggest something practical: picking up shopping, bringing home cooked meals, minding kids, walking the dog.

4.“Would You Like Company or Quiet?”

Some days are social, others aren’t. Giving them permission to choose can be a gift in itself.

5.“I’ve Made You Something”—or “I Got You This.”

Small gestures like meals, letters, or comfort bags can help someone feel remembered and cared for.

6.“You’re Still You.”

Illness can feel isolating. Let them know their personality, humour, and identity are still fully seen and loved.

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