How to Help Older Siblings Feel Involved with the New Baby

Bringing home a new baby is a huge change for everyone, especially your older children.

Whether they’re toddlers or school-aged, it’s completely normal for siblings to feel uncertain or even jealous. But with a few simple strategies, you can help them feel included and important in their new role.

1. Involve Them in Baby Prep

Let them help pack the baby’s hospital bag or choose a soft toy for their sibling. Making them part of the process gives them a sense of ownership and excitement.

2. Give Them a “Big Sibling” Gift

A small gift “from the baby” can help smooth the transition and make them feel celebrated. It could be a book, toy, or special outfit.

3. Set Aside One-on-One Time

Even just 10–15 minutes a day with undivided attention can make a huge difference. Talk about their day, play their favourite game, remind them they’re still just as important.

4. Let Them Help (In Safe, Small Ways)

Ask them to fetch a nappy or help choose a baby outfit. These little tasks help them feel useful and connected.

5. Talk Openly About Feelings

Let them know it’s okay to feel happy and a little unsure. Books about becoming a big brother or sister can help open the conversation.

U L L U V   T I P: Some parents even pack a surprise “sibling gift” in their hospital bag to give at the first meeting. It’s a lovely way to ease introductions.